Yesterday I was telling my mom about my friend’s funny Tinder experience. I quote:
Mom: “You’re on Tinder, right?”
Mom: “Why aren’t you on Tinder?!”
For the record, I considered online dating after listening to my friends talk about their cute success stories, but still the idea made me nervous. I’m all for putting myself out there and I know I’ll get into the dating scene again, but even something “non-committal'' sounds draining. I don’t have time to sit around and flirt with guys, hoping they’ll ask me out! I have classes to teach, stories to write, certifications to complete, degrees to get… I don’t have time to play games!
Of course I think that life is meant to be shared (aka I don’t want to die alone) but seriously?? The guys I like enough to date either don’t see me in that way or are too chicken to approach me. But even if they do approach me, I don't know if I want their attention! The cycle never ends!
(Disclaimer: I guess you could say I’m a bit cynical...the last guy I dated liked someone else, and the guy before that was a total jerk)
So, I downloaded Tinder. It was fun for the first hour, but it quickly became addicting. I stayed up way too late last night, hoping to find some miracle guy that would change my pessimistic attitude.
I matched with a couple of guys, some from the same college as me. I got a huge ego boost, and it was pretty fun to talk with them, but after a while it became exhausting.
Don’t get me wrong, the attention was nice. But still, the ever-looming question was in my mind while I was trying to make conversation:
Seriously! I’m extremely happy with where I am right now. I’m dancing, teaching, writing, cooking… in terms of “love”, I’m perfectly content swooning over movie characters and guys who probably don’t know I exist. I don’t know how serious these Tinder guys are! Heck, I don’t even know how serious I am!
I had to turn down two guys today because they asked for my phone number. They both go to the same college as me and they seem really sweet, but I started to second-guess them. I’m too scared to respond to everyone else--after a few minutes of conversation I feel pressured to keep it up because “what if they’re the one?”
I might keep the app for another day or so in case I change my mind, but I’ll probably delete it soon. Maybe I’ll try eharmony or something when I’m in my late twenties and I’m running out of time.
I’m glad I tried Tinder, even if it was just for a day or so. For now, imma go make chocolate cake. And eat it too.
I don't really know what the moral of the story is here. Um... You do you? If you wanna try online dating, go for it! If you're any bit as cynical as I am... welcome to the party?
UPDATE: the chocolate cake was just what I needed.
Good luck (seriously),